Spending dedicated time with a trained professional is the most direct and personalized way to help your relationship succeed. All our counseling is confidential and professional. The roadmap provided by Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy allows the therapist to quickly discern the best route forward for building, rebuilding, or healing the emotional bond. Instead of simply being a “last resort before divorce,” counseling is an investment in your health, your partner, your children, and your future happiness. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is appropriate for any of the following situations:
Recovering from Infidelity
When there is a betrayal and breach of trust, we call this special kind of wound an “attachment injury,” and it has some unique implications for a relationship. The injured party’s memories all become tainted with the possibility that “everything was false,” and the future is robbed of hope. It is possible to heal from infidelity and betrayal, and the relationship can move forward, but it requires the hard work of understanding, speaking truth, and rebuilding a new foundation of trust.
Planning for a lifetime of love with another person can be both thrilling and daunting! A marriage has the potential to be supportive, joyful, and fulfilling, or it can get off track. Is there anything we can do to prepare ourselves as thoroughly as possible? Premarital counseling in EFT allows couples to develop tools for navigating day-to-day conflicts while maintaining their emotional bond. It also provides space to truly resolve old fears and wounds, to keep them from resurfacing over and over and driving a wedge into the relationship. Prepare yourself now for your best future.
Couples who have previously been married understand the importance of maintaining their emotional bond. Often, the current relationship involves lots of stressors, including ex-spouses, blended families, and career adjustments. When facing multiple stressors, it is more important than ever to have a “united front” with your partner. Committing yourself to a counseling process can provide the tools and the deep connection you need in order to face these challenges together.
There are times when couples begin to question whether they are truly compatible. Maybe years of distance have come between you. Maybe you are tired of persistent fighting. Or maybe the relationship has been affected by a betrayal or injury from long ago that cannot be overcome. Questions arise about the future: “Can we stay together and hope to find any satisfaction?” These are times when it can be helpful to have a counselor involved. A confidential therapy session can help clarify the issues and figure out the best route forward.
Loss of Physical Intimacy
Sometimes, a couple gets into a negative spiral where there is a loss of emotional connection, which leads to a loss of physical connection, which then leads to any number of negative symptoms, such as arguing or emotional distance. When one partner is impacted more than another by the absence of physical intimacy, then it can become a painful wedge that impacts every other aspect of the relationship. EFT provides a roadmap to restoring the emotional bond, and creating spaces to discuss intimacy in ways that bring people closer together instead of driving them apart.
Real intimacy with another human being is both compelling and frightening. Is it possible to invest in your relationship in such a way that the moments of joy are expanded and the times of fear and frustration are reduced? What would that be worth? EFT provides a roadmap with which to understand the normal fears, struggles, and desires in the relationship. It also provides tools that are designed to navigate around challenges more effectively and reconnect more quickly.